Give yourself permission to let go in this New Year
by Cassandra Carr
I’m learning to let go. I didn’t have much of a choice – in early December an angry rash-like thing developed on my arm. It was shingles. It’s mostly cleared up now, but it forced me to take some time and step back from my normally busy, busy days. Why was that so important? Because one of the primary causes of shingles is stress. And how could I hope to get rid of the shingles if I was still trying to do a million things at once?
So I stopped. I watched television. I took naps. I caught up on a little bit of my reading. Now my to-be-read pile is only large enough to last me until the end of 2013. And no, I’m not kidding. I’m an unabashed book addict.
Anyway, as I put out my fourth, fifth, and sixth releases all before March 7th, it’s becoming obvious to me that not everyone is going to like my work. And I need to let that go. Case in point, in mid-December a pretty prominent reviewer slammed my debut novel, Talk to Me, both on Twitter and on her blog. That book, by the way, was named a Top Pick by both Night Owl Reviews and The Romance Reviews. My point exactly.
What did I do in response? Nothing. Was I upset by it? Of course I was. You never want to hear someone hated your story, and it’s even worse when they hate it in such a public manner. But I got over it. The very nature of the Internet is that it’s fleeting. I’m guessing that of the perhaps several hundred people who saw either her Tweet or her blog post, few could remember many details even a couple of days later.
Recently I got a five-star review of my holiday novella, Caught, by another pretty big review site. It’s been nominated by LoveRomancesCafe as one of the best BDSM books of 2011. But I’m sure it’s only a matter of time before someone hates it and slams it in a review, or on a blog, or in a Tweet, or through their Facebook status. It’s the nature of the beast in this industry.
And so just like how I need to let these negative reviews go, we all need to let things go. We’re too busy to be perfect. And really, who wants to be a perfect person anyway? They’re boring. I shudder to think of becoming a Stepford Author.
What are you planning to let go in the new year?
Cassandra Carr is a multi-published erotic romance writer with Ellora’s Cave, Siren, and Loose Id who lives in Western New York with her husband, Inspiration, and her daughter, Too Cute for Words. When not writing she enjoys watching hockey and hanging out on Twitter. For more information about Cassandra, check out her website at http://www.booksbycassandracarr.com, “like” her Facebook fan page athttp://www.facebook.com/AuthorCassandraCarr or follow her on Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/Cassandra_Carr.
BLURB FOR CAUGHT:
When Callie returns to her hometown for the holidays she comes face to face with her old lover and Dominant, Jack. She left him three years ago believing he could never be the happily-ever-after man she needed. Yet Jack still wants her and she finds herself wanting to submit to him again.
As Jack and Callie explore their Dominant/submissive relationship, Callie gets drawn deep into Jack’s world all over again. For his part, Jack can’t seem to forget how she nearly ruined him when she took off without even saying good-bye all those years ago, but he’s afraid his baser needs will destroy Callie.
If Callie give Jack another chance to prove he can be what she needs, can Jack overcome his own fears and claim Callie forever?